About Me
Birk Stroheker
Origin Story
I have been blessed with many gifts in my life. Amongst them, the wonderful ability to feel other people’s emotions as if they were my own, the luck to have had, in a way, countless lives and experiences all combined into one, and last but not least, the incredible gift of being a natural born loser.
It took a while for me to understand that. I was never popular, never had people lined up to be friends with me, and never had girls interested in dating me. I was continuously unsure of who I am and where I belong. As a result, loneliness, anger, and my old friend crippling depression characterized most of my life.
Well, I’d be lying if I said I’ve figured it all out now. It’s still a process. But I feel a lot closer to the person I was meant to be than I used to. And, surprisingly, these days I’m realizing how incredibly much I’ve learned and gained from my past.
My Mission
It is this practical knowledge that I’d like to share with the world. I’m not a therapist or a doctor. I’m just a guy who has lived his whole life from the bottom, analyzing what it takes to attain a truly good life because it was perpetually what I lacked.
So take it or leave it! Either way, I’m happy you’re here and wish you the best of luck on your own journey of growth and self-realization!
Why Choose Me?
Resilience & Experience
Choosing me means choosing someone with an enormous background in studying, experimenting with, and optimizing life to the utmost. Not only am I adamant about making the most out of my personal life, but I am also obsessed with learning about the lives of other people. How do they work, eat, train, date, and even make love. What works for them and what doesn’t. Where are the repeating patterns, and what might just be the solution for you specifically.
Choosing me means putting your money on someone who has overcome countless struggles of the body and the mind. I had to endure and learn from devastating failures in my life. I’ve been rejected, ignored, abandoned, and hurt more times than I can count or ever put into words. I was physically sick, alone, broke, and depressed. I was addicted to alcohol, video games, porn, and other distractions, unable to cope with reality anymore. And yet here I am…
Choosing me means choosing someone who overcame all those things, one by one, trying and failing, learning and improving over the years. Whatever your issues may be, I can assure you that I’ve dealt with something similar before and am more than happy to help you win that same struggle that I had to go through.
Choosing me means choosing someone with an enormous background in studying, experimenting with, and optimizing life to the utmost. Not only am I adamant about making the most out of my personal life, but I am also obsessed with learning about the lives of other people. How do they work, eat, train, date, and even make love. What works for them and what doesn’t. Where are the repeating patterns, and what might just be the solution for you specifically.
Choosing me means putting your money on someone who has overcome countless struggles of the body and the mind. I had to endure and learn from devastating failures in my life. I’ve been rejected, ignored, abandoned, and hurt more times than I can count or ever put into words. I was physically sick, alone, broke, and depressed. I was addicted to alcohol, video games, porn, and other distractions, unable to cope with reality anymore. And yet here I am…
Choosing me means choosing someone who overcame all those things, one by one, trying and failing, learning and improving over the years. Whatever your issues may be, I can assure you that I’ve dealt with something similar before and am more than happy to help you win that same struggle that I had to go through.
My Approach - Balance
I can wholeheartedly tell you that my approach is unique. Many coaches, YouTube personalities, or overall people tend to go one way or the other. You see a lot of inspiring knucklehead mentalities that tell you to suck it up and work until you throw up. Others embrace you with love and kind words, but don’t lead you to real changes.
I prefer balance – in life and in my teaching. My approach combines confronting hard truths and seeking out the uncomfortable, yet also finding inner peace and letting go of the constant pursuit. It can at times be contradictory, yet let me assure you that when you apply yourself to it, it will end up making sense to you eventually, and you will find those parts balancing each other out perfectly.
Essentially, think Jordan B. Peterson, Andrew Tate, Alan Watts, and Mark Manson all put in a blender.
I can wholeheartedly tell you that my approach is unique. Many coaches, YouTube personalities, or overall people tend to go one way or the other. You see a lot of inspiring knucklehead mentalities that tell you to suck it up and work until you throw up. Others embrace you with love and kind words, but don’t lead you to real changes.
I prefer balance – in life and in my teaching. My approach combines confronting hard truths and seeking out the uncomfortable, yet also finding inner peace and letting go of the constant pursuit. It can at times be contradictory, yet let me assure you that when you apply yourself to it, it will end up making sense to you eventually, and you will find those parts balancing each other out perfectly.
Essentially, think Jordan B. Peterson, Andrew Tate, Alan Watts, and Mark Manson all put in a blender.
I have the All-Seeing Eye(s)
Just less spiritual than it sounds.
Probably my greatest ability, something no amount of college studies can teach you, is that I can notice a tremendous amount about a person from the way they look, act, and talk. Everyone can do this to a degree. For me, it’s at a level where I often know a person better from first looks than they know themselves. That means I will notice every insecurity, doubt, uncertainty, and regret, every piece of pain that is stuck to you like a splinter, every longing, and every desire.
That can be scary. But it will help us a lot in figuring out what you need in life and how we will get you there. Luckily, I’m not just good at seeing pain, I’m also very good at figuring out where it comes from and how to resolve it. Don’t believe me? Let’s try it out!
Just less spiritual than it sounds.
Probably my greatest ability, something no amount of college studies can teach you, is that I can notice a tremendous amount about a person from the way they look, act, and talk. Everyone can do this to a degree. For me, it’s at a level where I often know a person better from first looks than they know themselves. That means I will notice every insecurity, doubt, uncertainty, and regret, every piece of pain that is stuck to you like a splinter, every longing, and every desire.
That can be scary. But it will help us a lot in figuring out what you need in life and how we will get you there. Luckily, I’m not just good at seeing pain, I’m also very good at figuring out where it comes from and how to resolve it. Don’t believe me? Let’s try it out!
Over 10 years as a vivid lucid dreamer
My coaching often revolves around mindfulness. Being more present in your body, in your life. Cutting out distractions and bad habits, while figuring out what really makes you happy. Being mindful, or lucid, is nowhere harder than in your dreams. They are designed to keep you in the dark and go along with whatever the world around you tells you. If you manage to become clear for just a second, then you have to hold onto it for dear life as the dream tries to regain its hold over you. Personally, I see quite a lot of resemblance to our everyday lives, how we don’t only lose our mindfulness too easily, but also how every corporation, every ad, every app, wants your attention, your money, and for you to mindlessly do as they please.
When I was 14, I decided to wake up. I applied myself to learning lucid dreaming like a madman, and the results came quickly. After a few months, my nights started to consist of multiple hours of adventuring, flying through the air, fighting epic battles, and overall doing whatever I felt like. Most of the time, I am in a very lucid (conscious) state, seeing and feeling as clearly as I would in reality. So if you are looking for someone to help you wake up and reach your true potential, then I am your man.
My coaching often revolves around mindfulness. Being more present in your body, in your life. Cutting out distractions and bad habits, while figuring out what really makes you happy. Being mindful, or lucid, is nowhere harder than in your dreams. They are designed to keep you in the dark and go along with whatever the world around you tells you. If you manage to become clear for just a second, then you have to hold onto it for dear life as the dream tries to regain its hold over you. Personally, I see quite a lot of resemblance to our everyday lives, how we don’t only lose our mindfulness too easily, but also how every corporation, every ad, every app, wants your attention, your money, and for you to mindlessly do as they please.
When I was 14, I decided to wake up. I applied myself to learning lucid dreaming like a madman, and the results came quickly. After a few months, my nights started to consist of multiple hours of adventuring, flying through the air, fighting epic battles, and overall doing whatever I felt like. Most of the time, I am in a very lucid (conscious) state, seeing and feeling as clearly as I would in reality. So if you are looking for someone to help you wake up and reach your true potential, then I am your man.
A Dating Coach who's seen some shit
I think at this point I don’t need to tell you: Dating and finding a long-term partner you are genuinely happy with… is a goddamned nightmare these days!
Dating was never easy for me. I started my journey as an absolute nerd, who was insecure and unsure of himself, who couldn’t open his mouth if his life depended on it. Again, this time, when I was 20, I chose to wake up. I intentionally went through hell by forcing myself out there, going to parties, meeting girls, and making experiences both good and bad. I’m now a very confident man who can talk to anyone and has more experience with women than most other men, which I am very proud of. But even now, dating still feels hard.
Over the last years, I met people from all walks of life, some in the form of dating or sex, others, including men, whom I simply met and got to hear their stories. And man… everyone struggles. Everyone from the insecure nerd, to the gigachad, to the hot girls. It’s definitely true that girls and hot guys have it easier finding sex partners, but that doesn’t really make anyone happy. Without exception, I feel like everyone nowadays struggles to find that meaningful relationship in our digital modern, dating-app, and post-covid riddled age.
And I can’t make you break out of that and find a girl- or boyfriend easily. But as someone who’s worked his way up from the bottom, I can at least promise you that I can help.
I think at this point I don’t need to tell you: Dating and finding a long-term partner you are genuinely happy with… is a goddamned nightmare these days!
Dating was never easy for me. I started my journey as an absolute nerd, who was insecure and unsure of himself, who couldn’t open his mouth if his life depended on it. Again, this time, when I was 20, I chose to wake up. I intentionally went through hell by forcing myself out there, going to parties, meeting girls, and making experiences both good and bad. I’m now a very confident man who can talk to anyone and has more experience with women than most other men, which I am very proud of. But even now, dating still feels hard.
Over the last years, I met people from all walks of life, some in the form of dating or sex, others, including men, whom I simply met and got to hear their stories. And man… everyone struggles. Everyone from the insecure nerd, to the gigachad, to the hot girls. It’s definitely true that girls and hot guys have it easier finding sex partners, but that doesn’t really make anyone happy. Without exception, I feel like everyone nowadays struggles to find that meaningful relationship in our digital modern, dating-app, and post-covid riddled age.
And I can’t make you break out of that and find a girl- or boyfriend easily. But as someone who’s worked his way up from the bottom, I can at least promise you that I can help.